John Robert Dyer and Barsheba Tharpe (Part 1)

Valley of the Terrapins, Slow and Steady Wins the Race

adapted from a manuscript by Nancy Mildred Beals DeWitt

Part 1

It is with great humility that I am trying to compile the history of my Great Grandparents. I have prayed earnestly and humbly for my Heavenly Father to help me with this assignment. The latest research I can find shows John Robert Dyer was probably born in Greensboro, N. Carolina between 1813-1818 and Barsheba Tharpe was born on 8 Sept. 1813. We think her father's name was John or Robert Lewis Tharpe but we are not positive. We think his mother's name was Sarah or Sara Taylor.

John Robert and Barsheba were both orphans. They met when both were working, where they fell in love and got married. They started housekeeping in a one room log cabin with a dirt floor and not a stick of furniture. They gathered some fresh pine needles and piled them in the corner for a bed.

It took a brave woman to go into the forest with her man and raise a family. She faced odds that would frighten most people, like the quiet of the forest with no neighbor close to talk to or give the assurance of help in an emercency or sickness. There was no one to have a little womanly talk with as the long days went by. The only sounds were those that came from the forest, a panther's scream at night, a wolf's howl, or an owl's hoot. My Grant Grandmother Barsheba was one of those brave women. She had neither a parent nor an inlaw to turn to, no one but her husband.

Since Great Grandpa John Robert was a farmer, history tells us he would have been busy clearing the land, making a crop, hunting the meat in the forest, making a shelter, and protecting his home.

People in those times did not have too much time to think about educating the children. In fact the schools were so far and few that many of the backwoods people did not learn to read and write. There was a lot to learn about life and survival that couldn't be learned in books, however, and this kind of education was important as "booklearning" in thos dayes, if not more important.

Later, roads were built and the community grew until there were close neighbors. The soil was virgin. The trees were big and the forest stretched so far it was more than a man could do to clear his land. He had to girdle the trees with an axe and let them die, then cut the trees and roll them into a heap and chop them to burn during the winter to keep warm. This took strong, courageous men. This is the kind of a man my Great Grandfather, John Robert Dyer was. It is said that the name Dyer is an occupational name from the old English word Deagre meaning "dyer" -- one who either processes the dye or one who dyed the cloth. The motto on the Dyer Crest means "I do not Fear. I will not affright." Our ancestors were poor in the things of this world, but there was no poverty of spirit.

They kept the fields fenced with split rails, the cows, hogs and sheep ran outside in the woods for pasture. In the spring they would round up the cattle except the milk cows and sheep. They usually let hogs run wild in the mountains. They would take the sheep and cattle to the mountains for summer pasture, going out about every two weeks to give them some salt and check on them.

They grew corn as a main crop, pulling the blades from the stalks in the fall and tied them into bundles and put them in starks or in the barn for winter feed. They grew their own potatoes, cabbage and beans and the produce they used on the table. They dried apples, dried green beans, dried pumpkin, made kraut, made hominy, then they gathered the herbs for their medicine, all for the winter use.

They went to the spring or a branch to wash clothes, boiling them in a big iron pot, beating the dirt out with a "battling" stick, and washed with home made lye soap. They carded wool to weave cloth for clothes for all the family, and knit all the stockings from wool. The shoemaker took tanned cowhide and made shoes using wooden pegs to hold the soles. They made quilts from lindsey wool cloth and wove all of the blankets.

A big fire was kept in the house all winter, if they had two chimneys they kept a fire in both, one to cook on. The children went to school about one month in the winter when it was too cold to work on the farm. They had school in the church house or log house by a fireplace, then later a "pot bellied" stove.

When a preacher would visit the community to preach, they would go to church. Mostly in the summer time they would have a "Protracted Meeting" after the crops were "layed by" for about a week in each church. They never thought of going to the store for anything but things they could not grow or make on the farm: coffee, soda, salt, sugar, some medicine, turpentine, salts, linament, camphor ice to make a bottle of "Campfire" with whiskey to sit on the "fireboard" for use when aches or pains came on. All the family worked six days a week after about six years old, no time for play or foolishment."